Wulung: muddled Confucius' grandson Ji Si didn't allow his son to mourn his dead mother because she had divorced Ji Si.  When asked about this change in custom, he replied, "A virtuous man will take it seriously (i.e. to luhng).  But as for me, I'm not that virtuous, so I just take it casually (i.e. to Wu)."  Such flexibility can lead to confusion, so wulung became known as "muddled."   Confusion often occurs during major turning points in our lives.  In modern day, different generations seem to … [Read more...]